Monthly Member Meeting | Keeping up with the Joneses: Why perfectionism is bulls$t for not only you as a divorce professional, but for understanding your clients, as well.

Description:

Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best or focusing on healthy achievement or growth. In fact, being a perfectionist makes it more challenging to reach your personal best.  Particularly when we are dealing with the fragmented relationships of our clients who are struggling with their own sense of “imperfection” in life through their relationship, it is imperative that we not get caught up in our own ego needs by being perfectionistic in our thinking (final deal is the most important part; all or nothing thinking; winning).  In this lecture, you will learn what perfectionism is; better understand the struggles of your clients; and find ways to combat unhealthy perfectionism that can negatively impact ourselves and our clients.

Description:

Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best or focusing on healthy achievement or growth. In fact, being a perfectionist makes it more challenging to reach your personal best.  Particularly when we are dealing with the fragmented relationships of our clients who are struggling with their own sense of “imperfection” in life through their relationship, it is imperative that we not get caught up in our own ego needs by being perfectionistic in our thinking (final deal is the most important part; all or nothing thinking; winning).  In this lecture, you will learn what perfectionism is; better understand the struggles of your clients; and find ways to combat unhealthy perfectionism that can negatively impact ourselves and our clients.

Bio:

Dr. Renee A. Exelbert, Ph.D., CFT, is both a licensed New York state psychologist and a certified elite personal trainer.  She received her B.S. from Cornell University, and her M.A. and Ph.D. from New York University.

Dr. Exelbert is the Founding Director of The Metamorphosis Center for Psychological and Physical Change, where she integrates psychotherapy and exercise, with a unique focus on the mind/body connection through use of visual imagery and cognitions. 

She is also the author of “Chemo Muscles: Lessons Learned from Being a Psycho-Oncologist and Cancer Patient (Mascot Books, 2020).  Dr. Exelbert is a regular expert media contributor and has appeared in numerous outlets including: Thrive Global; Good Housekeeping; The New York Post; Parade Magazine; CNBC; Today; Popsugar, Shape Magazine and television: Fox5 News; Newsmax; and NewsNation. 

Dr. Exelbert maintains a private practice in Manhasset and Nyack, New York for the treatment of children, adolescents, adults and families. She is also an Adjunct Professor in the Department of Applied Psychology at the New York University Steinhardt School of Culture, Education and Human Development where she teaches Masters-level psychology courses. Dr. Exelbert previously served as Staff Psychologist at the Cancer Center for Kids at NYU Winthrop Hospital Cancer Center, working with children and adolescents diagnosed with cancer. She is also a public speaker covering many mental health topics, most notably the empowerment of individuals coping with cancer, educating healthcare professionals, and all matters mind-body.